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How Childhood Shapes Your Relationship
By Jen Ferguson "I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me." Galatians 2:20, NIV For the longest time in our marriage, I often felt like a little puppy dog in our marriage. I would yip and yap and tug much like puppies do as they try to vie for their owner's attention. I felt as though I was continually chasing after Craig, pleading "pay attention to me!" But every foot I got closer, the more he moved away. To be honest, I was not as innocent as a cute little puppy dog. While my need for his love and attention was valid (and still is), it had also reached unhealthy levels. I continued to move towards Craig because I was dependent on him for my security and self-worth. Enter the childhood past affecting the present marriage. Growing up, my parent's relationship was highly unstable, which definitely affected my sense of security and stability. I was desperate to have my new family become the opposite of my childhood, but did not have the tools to create that environment in a healthy way. Unequipped, I simply tried to force it, manufacture it, control it to soothe my inner heartache. | 
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